Yesterday one of my best friends called me a "feminist." I don't know whether I disagree with him or not, but this isn't the first time I've been struck with that label. I certainly consider myself an activist- but mainly for those that can't speak for themselves and walk on four legs. Perhaps being an outspoken, strong-willed, morally-grounded (in my opinion) female makes me a feminist. Or the following paragraphs probably make me a feminist....
I don't have a conversation with this post because I don't use this word recreationally.
It drives me crazy when women refer to their female friends as "bitches." What's sad is that I know I did in it high school and parts of college. Now I can't stand it.
BITCH: noun \bich\ (Merriam-Webster)
I don't have a conversation with this post because I don't use this word recreationally.
It drives me crazy when women refer to their female friends as "bitches." What's sad is that I know I did in it high school and parts of college. Now I can't stand it.
BITCH: noun \bich\ (Merriam-Webster)
1
: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals
2
a : a lewd or immoral woman
b : a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
3
: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant
4
: complaint
So here we see that (as of now) the idea of "bitch" is not a good thing. When women call one another "bitch", it makes men think it's ok. (I hate to throw out a double standard, but it's absolutely not ok for men to casually say it about a women [or aggressively, really].) Robin Thicke, Kanye West, and California Swag District PREFER the term over "lady" or "woman." Lovely.
I know I sound super uptight, but if I heard my future-daughter refer to her friends as "my bitches" I would smack the word right out of her mouth. (I don't even KNOW what I'd do to a son that felt "bitch" was an appropriate pet name.) There are so many other options. Why do we degrade ourselves to the word "bitch"? (Or "whore", "ho", "skank", "slut.") I've used these- my friends have used these- but upon self reflection, I'm making the conscious decision to cut them out of my vocabulary. It's juvenile and petty to speak like this and I'd like to hold myself to a higher standard.
Side note: If there IS, in fact, a girl being a horrible, awful, disgusting, hurtful, vicious, hateful person, I reserve the right to use the word as it was meant to be used...
I know I sound super uptight, but if I heard my future-daughter refer to her friends as "my bitches" I would smack the word right out of her mouth. (I don't even KNOW what I'd do to a son that felt "bitch" was an appropriate pet name.) There are so many other options. Why do we degrade ourselves to the word "bitch"? (Or "whore", "ho", "skank", "slut.") I've used these- my friends have used these- but upon self reflection, I'm making the conscious decision to cut them out of my vocabulary. It's juvenile and petty to speak like this and I'd like to hold myself to a higher standard.
Side note: If there IS, in fact, a girl being a horrible, awful, disgusting, hurtful, vicious, hateful person, I reserve the right to use the word as it was meant to be used...
